I'm Dr. Adam Sheck, and I'd like to welcome you to the "Men After Fifty" Community! Living for more than half a century on this planet is a rite of passage and I wanted to create a place where we can share our wisdom and experience to help each other and to help those who matter in our lives. As true for many "men after fifty", I've had a number of careers over my … [Read More...]
Most of us wait until the “New Year” to reassess our lives and state new plans, intentions and “resolutions” for our lives. Yes, it’s a time when there is general consensus that this is a good thing to do, yet why wait?
If you want to create change in your life, why wait? NOW is the only time that you can make change, whether that NOW happens to occur today, tomorrow or on the first of January. The only thing that creates change is creating change: in the mind, the heart, the body. It starts with intention and completes with follow through. And it begins NOW!
The purpose of this post isn’t to tell you what to do or even how to do it, though as a psychologist I do work with people on creating change in their lives. My intention in this post is to encourage you to start NOW.
My other intention is to encourage you to focus not on things, but on qualities. We spend so much of our time and energies wanting new things in our lives: new possessions, new relationships, new careers.
There’s nothing wrong with that, yet believe it or not, having specific ideas of what we want can actually limit what we can receive in our lives. How often do we consciously really know what is best for us?
Our unconscious, our psyche, our soul often has more wisdom than our conscious, ego-driven mind. My recommendation is to focus on qualities or feelings that you would like to have more of in your life. Some feelings might include:
I want to FEEL happy.
I want to FEEL peaceful.
I want to FEEL love.
I want to FEEL excited.
I want to FEEL creative.
While we might believe we have limitations on what we can create in the material world, we often have a great deal of control over our inner states, our feeling states, and our reactions to the events of life.
I’m not saying that connecting to these states is a piece of cake, especially is we have lifelong patterns of focusing on less desirable feelings. It takes FOCUS, DISCIPLINE AND COMMITMENT. It CAN be done.
HOW we do that, is the work, and probably a little more than can be explained in this article. The basic components though, are:
1. Determine the feeling states that you would like to experience on a regular, daily basis.
2. Determine what actions you can take on a daily basis to experience these states.
3. Commit to taking these actions on a daily basis.
Now, if you’ve done all this, and you notice that you still aren’t taking the identified actions, you probably need some support in dealing with the BLOCKS you might have in doing so.
Some of these BLOCKS might have to do with your past, with earlier events, perhaps from your childhood, where you might have acquired some limiting BELIEFS, which prevent you from taking action.
You might need some support in dealing with these BLOCKS. You might need to work with a counselor, a psychologist, a coach, a spiritual advisor. This is a big part of the work I perform with people, individually, in groups and in teleseminars.
Bottom line, whether you can implement these changes on your own or whether you need support, don’t wait until the New Year. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Start NOW!
Create a wonderful life NOW!
If you are clearly committed to creating a better life and believe that my work can be of service to this goal, please click here to request your complimentary, 30 minute “Creating Change” Strategy Session, available through Skype or telephone.