I'm Dr. Adam Sheck, and I'd like to welcome you to the "Men After Fifty" Community! Living for more than half a century on this planet is a rite of passage and I wanted to create a place where we can share our wisdom and experience to help each other and to help those who matter in our lives. As true for many "men after fifty", I've had a number of careers over my … [Read More...]

I like what you said about how to get a man to open up to you. Patience has a lot to do with it. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. When I first met him he had this wall around him and NOBODY was going to get in. Well, I used to give up on men like this but for some reason this one I just could not give up on. So I made my motto NEVER GIVE UP come to life. Sometimes when I ask him questions he just shines me on like I never asked it in the first place. So I let it go (for the time being). And then there are other times hes telling me stuff I never dreamed he would tell me nor have I ever asked any questions about. As you said TRUST is the key word, also, patience and understanding. You want to know something but do you have to know it at that moment? No you don’t. If the relationship was meant to be all things will come out eventually from the both of you. As for that brick wall my boyfriend had around him, lets just say I was able to break it down enough to be able to climb in there with him. No he has not opened up completely but maybe one day he will. Right now he just wants someone to believe in him. His self-estem is zero for what ever happened to him in the past. And right now all I can do is try and understand, be patient and most of all try and raise his self-estem and be there when he needs me.
Sandy,
You sound like a loving, compassionate, patient and understanding partner and your bf is fortunate to have you in his life. If I can help in anyway, please let me know.
Take care,
Adam