From a women perspective yes, but from a man perspective I am not sure … somehow men always want more.<\/em><\/p>\n

They can. Sex does tend to get in the way a lot though. \ud83d\ude42<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, I can but with my experience it is usually difficult for most males just to be friends:)<\/em><\/p>\n

I say yes but I know too many men that think otherwise!<\/em><\/p>\n

Over the years, I’ve learned that if the male is mature and mentally healthy, it is possible. Sure, like most straight men, he will periodically have sexual thoughts of her, but he will choose not to act on them.<\/em><\/p>\n

I find it awkward when I’m in a relationship with someone that doesn’t believe men\/women can be friends SO I tend to shy away from male friends. It can be threatening to relationships and if you have too many male friends, some women view that with a wonky eye as well!<\/em><\/p>\n

It depends on the individuals involved, their personal ethics and issues, how important the friendship is to them, etc, etc, etc.<\/em><\/p>\n

In my humble opinion yes they can be as long as they define the boundaries up front – then no one is confused….<\/em><\/p>\n

I like to be friends with some men but find it difficult…they all want it to lead elsewhere.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Responses From Men:<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

I don’t think so.<\/em><\/p>\n

It can be difficult but sure its possible. I think its much easier for girls, theres always the “sex” issue for most guys. I have had several “girl” friends in the past and still have one good one …<\/em><\/p>\n

If there’s little or no sexual interest on either part. Otherwise it gets complicated.<\/em><\/p>\n

Not if there is a relationship involved, especially if it is the guy in the relationship wanting female friends. women are just more “territorial” when it comes to their men. Not saying it’s impossible, just extremely rare.<\/em><\/p>\n

It is rare and very difficult when in a relationship. My girl friend is not at all comfortable with my friendship [with a woman].<\/em><\/p>\n

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For the most part, women believed that they could be friends with men. \u00a0At the same time, the majority of the men that answered believed that having a non-sexual relationship with a woman was quite challenging. \u00a0The two issues that seem to come up in these responses seem to be the issue of sexual tension between the friends and the issue of jealousy from a partner.<\/p>\n

In a study published in the\u00a0Journal of Social and Personal Relationships<\/em>, 150 men and women were surveyed about their cross-sex friendships. Sixty-two percent \u00a0reported that sexual tension was present in their cross-sex friendships. \u00a0This isn’t terribly surprising. \u00a0What is more interesting to me is that men frequently stated that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and that it could even deepen the friendship.<\/em><\/p>\n

And, yes, the issue of jealousy and insecurity in our partners is also an important consideration, as are cultural and religious norms. \u00a0In certain cultures and religions, men and women really aren’t permitted to fraternize much, let alone be friends. \u00a0I’m not here to judge these belief systems, just stating them.<\/p>\n

As we advance more as a society, hopefully there will be more opportunities to foster deeper friendships between men and women. \u00a0There are definitely advantages for both in these kind of non-sexual connections.<\/p>\n

Sometimes a man will be more open about his feelings with a female friend then with his buddies. \u00a0Sometimes a woman is happy to just “hang out” with a male friend and not have to talk so much about “feelings”. \u00a0These are simplified examples, yet the research does seem to support them.<\/p>\n

My purpose in asking the question, “Can men and women be friends?” wasn’t necessarily to answer \u00a0it. \u00a0However, I would LOVE<\/strong> to hear your experiences and thoughts about this issue. \u00a0Please comment below and add to our informal data.<\/p>\n

There truly IS<\/strong> no definitive answer. \u00a0Or, to quote another of my Facebook survey participants, “It depends.”<\/p>\n

Dr. Adam Sheck<\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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