I'm Dr. Adam Sheck, and I'd like to welcome you to the "Men After Fifty" Community! Living for more than half a century on this planet is a rite of passage and I wanted to create a place where we can share our wisdom and experience to help each other and to help those who matter in our lives. As true for many "men after fifty", I've had a number of careers over my … [Read More...]

Adam,
Thanks for addressing this very fine and mysterious relationship of the Lover and Warrior within each of us. It is a dance and how we each play it is from our personalities and the dynamic of the relationship. Both exist within and around the intimate connection. I do feel somewhat ripped off. I expected and hoped for a few guidelines on how to negotiate the thicket of the dancing archetypes. Any ideas on what can facilitate the dance? Or is it as I said earlier just a dance that is unique to each couple? Peace, The rockin’ Rhino
Adam,
One thing came clear through to me although you didn’t explicitly mention it. Both the warrior and the lover is passionate about things – just in a different way. Personally, I would not call this a balancing act, that is not either-or, or in between, BUT BOTH. The warrior and the lover reinforce each other, and to quote your example: your desire to hold that loving space for the attendees is to create that boundary and protecting it as a warrior; to work with the hotel management, I am sure the simply ‘caveman’ attitude would not have worked. I am sure you expressed your passion and read the cues from the hotel manager to come to an workable arrangement.
My understanding is that all of the archetypes reinforce each other, and it is important to have both working together.
Looking forward to hearing how you are integrating rest of your energies together!
Scholarchanter – RFD
Scholarchanter,
Thanks so much for your thoughts. Yes, it’s definitely not and either/or. AND, I’m rethinking my thoughts about balance based upon feedback from yourself and others as well.
Thanks for your encouragement,
Adam
Doc,
To me you have to be both, being just a warrior alone or a lover alone,will leave one stunted in life (especially in relationships).. Good article and replies.
Tom