I'm Dr. Adam Sheck, and I'd like to welcome you to the "Men After Fifty" Community! Living for more than half a century on this planet is a rite of passage and I wanted to create a place where we can share our wisdom and experience to help each other and to help those who matter in our lives. As true for many "men after fifty", I've had a number of careers over my … [Read More...]

WOW Adam, thanks for sharing. Mid-Life Crisis is tough.What keeps me grounded is God. I have had temptations and it is so flattering but,I also have a husband that loves me no matter what and that unconditional love is so nice to have in my life.What you went through can be exciting but I think I will keep my excitement within my marriage because of my faith and my husband’s love for me.
Adam, your naked honesty is striking in its clarity and universality. I have been there. Not with yoga teachers/ assistants/ or students but younger women and HAVE NO regrets. It did rejuvenate. In reflection, it may have cost some time but so what? That is life. Go for the experience and as long as the cards are on the table let the chips fall where they may. A HOE!
Adam
This article brings insight on two things, I left my first husband because he was having affairs with younger women and I’m “that yoga instructor” . Then I fell in love with my current husband who in turn lusted after “the yoga instructor” which was me. He did the exact same behavior you shared with us and I was just clueless. Of coarse I became pregnant and he wanted to do the right thing and marry me I guess. Because a few months after marriage all his lies blew up in his face and I was crushed. All my trust I had put in him were gone and left wondering if he ever really loved me. My self-esteem went down the tube and felt like a nobody, just that girl that he got pregnant. And left wondering if he still lust after other women. However over the coarse of our first year of marriage (which was rough) he did lust after other women and I had to lay my expectations out and tell him he has and was hurting me tremendously. He did listen very much so and made every effort in changing because my view and love for him was more important than what I was leading to believe. However I still do not competly trust him and feel like he still hides things from me. If I can learn to trust him we would have it made!!!!
Thanks
Chey
Chey,
Thank you SO much for sharing your insights and experience from such a vulnerable place. It’s such a challenge for all of us to “wake up” and really see who we are with and choose them from that place. As far as I can tell, there are no quick fixes, just doing our own work and then couples work as appropriate. I’ve worked with many couples over the last twenty years to help them rebuild lost trust, so I know that it
CAN be done when both are committed to the process.
Wish you the best in this,
Adam