It Takes BALLS To Face The Issues Of Midlife & Beyond!
I'm Dr. Adam Sheck, and I'd like to welcome you to the "Men After Fifty" Community! Living for more than half a century on this planet is a rite of passage and I wanted to create a place where we can share our wisdom and experience to help each other and to help those who matter in our lives. As true for many "men after fifty", I've had a number of careers over my … [Read More...]
As part of my focus on men’s work, I wrote a Special Report on “The Five Myths That Keep Men Stuck” and have also created programs to help men free themselves from these limiting beliefs.
Recently I was interviewed about the “Five Myths” by Elaina McMillan on her daily radio program and was fortunate enough to receive a copy of the interview, which I am pleased to share with the Men After Fifty Community.
You may either listen to the recording here on the Men After Fifty website by clicking on the “play” arrow icon on the player at the top of this post or download an mp3 version to play later on your computer, your iPod or in your automobile. The interview on the “Five Myths” lasts about thirty minutes.
Please let me know your thoughts and comments and how I might best serve you in the future.
Thank you so much,
Believe it or not, more men in die each year of prostate cancer than women die of breast cancer! Why is that? There are many theories, but I would suggest in my psychological simplicity that it’s because men are men!
We are stoic, tolerate pain, avoid seeking help, avoiding asking for directions and avoid seeing doctors unless we believe we are dying! We ignore the warning signs of many physical illnesses. And while many women are rallying to create awareness of breast cancer and find the cure, as men, perhaps we’d rather pretend that nothing is wrong.
This creative and VERY ballsy video features the beautiful model Rhian and will definitely get the attention of men. WARNING: it is over the top, risqué and will be disturbing for some of you. AND, ignoring cancer is even more disturbing, so I’m willing to take the risk in sharing this.
Pay attention to your body and to your health, especially those in our Men After Fifty Community! We’ve got to look after each other! PLEASE share this information with someone you care about.
Thanks so much,
What Side Of The Bed Do YOU Sleep On?Who controls the “climate control” while you and your partner are driving? Who’s in charge of the remote control while watching television? Who decides where you sit while dining at home? At a restaurant?
I know that these all seem like trivial questions, yet they speak to a big issue in relationships, that of the POWER STRUGGLE!
After a couple has been together for awhile and made it through the “honeymoon” stage of the relationship, they enter the power struggle phase. This is where the “chemicals of love” have worn down a bit and we begin to experience who we are actually in a relationship with and we begin to butt heads as we notice our differences (For more on this, see my post, “Three Stages of Relationship”).
Let’s return to the original question, “what side of the bed do you sleep on?” [Read more…]
Are More Dominant and Attractive Men Better In Bed?This has been a fascinating question that has been open for debate for a long, long time. It’s probably only second to the “does size really matter” question. From a biological perspective, it certainly would seem that the more “dominant” males will be better breeding stock and so will be more desirable to females. On the other hand, our more “civilized” society would like us to believe that a more sensitive, caring man would make a better lover.
Well, wonder no longer, Penn State University completed a study of 110 heterosexual couples to find out the quality of female orgasm (a big factor in promoting conception) as a function of male dominance and attractiveness. And the results are in!
The male partners were rated according to [Read more…]
Is the entrepreneur divorce rate higher compared to the rest of the population?To tell you the truth, I really don’t know AND I don’t believe that divorce statistics are compiled according to profession. However, since Inc. Magazine did publish an article on Why So Many Entrepreneurs Get Divorced I felt that this was an issue I should examine.
It is especially relevant to the “Men After Fifty” population that reads my articles, as a much higher percent of my readers are entrepreneurs and I network with many of them. Before I give you my own thoughts about entrepreneur divorce, let me summarize the Inc. article.
Basically, it states that the entrepreneur personality is one of [Read more…]
I’m writing this post on a Monday morning, following an intense men’s weekend training I completed last night sponsored by The ManKind Project. It is called the New Warrior’s Training Adventure (NWTA) and it definitely was an “adventure” that pushed my physical, emotional and spiritual limits.
The purpose of this post is as much for me to integrate the weekend experience as it is to share what might be a beneficial experience for other men. This post is “Part 1” and gives you a context for my experience of “men’s work.” “Part 2” is more about my specific experience of the NWTA and can be read here.
In early 1990, I was very unhappy in my career as an engineer and I went back to school to become a psychologist. One of my Professors was Dr. Stephen Johnson who started the Men’s Center in Los Angeles to help support men in their growth process.
The “Men’s Movement” was very big in the early 1990s and [Read more…]
I’m writing this post on a Monday morning, following an intense men’s weekend training I completed last night sponsored by The ManKind Project. It is called the New Warrior’s Training Adventure (NWTA) and it definitely was an “adventure” that pushed my physical, emotional and spiritual limits.
The purpose of this post is as much for me to integrate the weekend experience as it is to share what might be a beneficial experience for other men. This is actually “Part 2”. You can read “Part 1” here, which began by setting the context of my previous experience of “men’s work.”
The New Warrior Training Adventure is a journey that begins on a Friday evening and ends about forty-eight hours later on a Sunday evening. Time becomes frozen in this intense experience which felt to me more like a week or even longer. The thirty men who participated with me as well as the staff for the weekend transformed from strangers to brothers as we bonded during a common experience.
I won’t describe the specifics of the weekend, as I want to respect the privacy of my fellows, but I shall certainly share my experience and growth. The NWTA draws on a myriad of male traditions, [Read more…]
What is the 80/20 Rule And Does It Apply To Relationships?I completely believe that 80/20 Rule applies to relationships! I’ve written a little bit about the 80/20 Rule in previous posts and now I’m ready to elaborate more about how you can specifically use it to enhance your relationship.
The 80/20 Rule is also known as the “Pareto Principle” and was named after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto who observed in 1906 that [Read more…]
Can anyone possibly answer the question of what women really want? It certainly is a question for the ages! I wrote a blogpost entitled, “What Do Men Really Want In Relationships?” and I received a great deal of feedback about it. It sparked a strong reaction, both in women that loved it and women that hated it. No one was on the fence.
And interestingly enough, there was only one male response. In that post, I promised a sequel, speaking about what women want, and after long contemplation I have finally written it. [Read more…]
Regarding the question of what men want, it’s not really that complicated at all. I can tell you this from both personal and professional experience, that what men want in relationships is pretty basic. Hint: It’s not about having a “trophy” partner or someone to feed us and take care of us when we’re sick. It’s certainly not about having someone to “process” feelings with. It’s not even about sex, though sexuality IS an important part of relationships.
What men REALLY want in a relationship, is [Read more…]